Let’s face it; we live in an imperfect world where hardly anything is like the television series that we watch. Some of us can have abusive, really difficult to handle or horrible dads and one might think themselves to be the unluckiest to have such a man for a parent.But life stops for none and somewhere we have to get over the fact that we got stuck with such a terrible father and have to move on with life. Cribbing or brooding over the fact is never going to help; on the contrary, dealing with it will. Here are a few ways that might help you understand and deal with the whole affair.

• Acceptance – accept the fact that you just got served with a bad parent, and that’s it. It’s not your fault that he is horrible to you. Understanding this is really crucial.
• Let go of the guilt – letting go of the guilt that your father is like that will help you move on faster. If he beats you or your mother, calls name to family members, is an alcohol or drug addict, is distant when at home or is gone for long times, it’s a problem with his persona, not yours.
• He isn’t the only role model in the world – a woman needs a good male role model in her life and many of us find that in our fathers. A dad is the first male relation that any girl has but that does not mean that you lose out on the chance just because yours turned out to be horrible. There may be many a father figures in your neighborhood,let alone the world who can make that stand for you.
• Avoid big confrontations –having big dramatic blow ups will get you nowhere and will only make things worse for you. You don’t need to fight with him in the first place because your life can go ahead without him, especially the terrible him. You don’t need his approval in anything.
• You come first - remember,if you don’t have take crap from him. You need to work on pleasing yourself more which will help you stay mentally healthy and ease your burden a lot.
• Stay focused and strong –just because you have a terrible dad doesn’t mean that life will all be downhill. On the contrary, work on strengthening your morals and values and stick to them. This will help you and the people around you to have a better life in spite of him.
• Tell him – sometimes we may be mistaken in judging someone; maybe there is a solid reason behind him being like that. Talk to your dad and let him know how he is bothering you and other people. If all goes well, he may take the hint and move towards improving. If it doesn’t change, you at least tried and got it off your chest.

Just remember one thing, not all human being are created equal. You just need to accept the fact and move on to a better life; after all, it is yours.