No matter how much happy you are prior to the wedding ceremony, there is something about getting married that might rock the boat. Majority of the couples fight on honeymoon. Most of them find that once return back to home, things are not going in a proper way as they were prior to the ceremony.
So whether you are a forty years down the road or blushing bride, how can you make your marriage work? The answer is to look at what successful couples do and use their secrets to your relationship.
Secret 1: Married couples who are successful get their deal straight
Marriage is altogether a different scenario from living together. It is not necessarily better, but it is different. Both of you will have different prospects of a 'spouse' than of a 'partner' - often basing those prospects on what you saw of your parents' married life. For instance, you might have been happy for your man to live the student life prior to the wedding, but later, you anticipate him to draw a good salary.
Secret 2: Married couples who are successful keep their individuality
No matter how independent you were before, marriage has a habit of sucking you in to being a couple.
Especially if the marriage involves kids, your lives are progressively tied up together day-to-day. The outcome is often feeling both depended and dependent on - as though you have someone perpetually clinging to your ankles.
Secret 3: Married couples who are successful keep each other center stage
It's alluring, once married, to forget the little manners. When you were going out - and still trying - you retrieved the small things, such as serving each other first, and retrieved the big things like listening properly to each other.
Marriage could cause a sea of change and often you stop being courteous to each other, stop seeing each other as important and rather start putting other things - like hobbies, work or the children – first.
Secret 4: Married couples who are successful learn to resolve conflicts
John Gottman a psychologist from America have done a twenty year research of married couples and made conclusion that the main thing that isolated success from failure was whether they could resolve conflicts or not.
Secret 5: Married couples who are successful keep the lust alive
On your first night of wedding, you might rip each others knickers off - but to be honest, in the years that follow, feeling's going to dip. Plus, these days, marriage often coincides with the ultimate passion killer, the birth of your first baby.
Secret 6: Married couples who are successful grow with each other
The bottom line is that the individual you marry would not be the individual you are still married to in ten years time. You will both change - specially at crunch points in your lives such as starting a family, losing a parent or facing the empty nest.
