Every parent would concur that they love their kid. Possibly even more than you have ever loved anybody. Nevertheless, most kids, particularly the weight challenged kids , may remember things that you have said to them years ago, that keep them from experiencing love.

There are five things you must never say to your kid. If you’ve or are saying them STOP! Say sorry when you catch yourself saying them and repair the situation.

1. “What’s wrong with you?”

How might a teen or child hear this question? Your kid hears this question like this: “I’m wrong, dim and there is something erroneous with me, so, I am not loved.”

2. “You are too young to understand.”

They are smarter than most of us were as kid. Kids have vulnerable minds and they can figure out just about everything.

3. “I told you so.”

This is my father’s all time preferred. This statement evidently punished a kid and causes them to think that your need to be right is more vital than your love for them. Making a kid feel erroneous is an easy thing to do, regrettably. No child understands or grows or learns by hearing “I told you so”.

4. “This is my house, it’s my way.”

What’s interesting is that when you intimidate a kid and the relationship you immediately take away kid’s primary need to feel safe. Home is the only place folks have to recognize you, love you and take you in. Once you intimidate the home you immediately rob your kid of feeling safe, feeling influential and fright them into doing things your way, which are not always the best way.

5. “Shame on you”.

I asked a group I was speaking to this question, “Can anybody explain to me how saying to a kid “shame on you” is helpful?

Parents frequently do this in public, so that others around them do not think they are not a good parent and they are punishing their kid.