Whether married, dating steadily or in a relationship, at times, sex can get monotonous and even that foreplay behind bedroom doors can tend to become part of the act. It is at such times that we long for something more to keep us interested in things and not turn into just machines. This can especially occur if both, you and partner work long hours and when you get into bed, just get to the act and are done with it.
The downside of this whole act is that when you both are tired, it may happen that only your partner achieves his ‘O’ (which generally happens in many cases) and you are left just grasping the sheets, to no avail. And given the understanding wife/girlfriend/partner you are you simply deal with it, right! Don’t.
According to one of Carl Jung’s hypothesis, a significant portion of your life and relations is dependent on our sexual relations. So, if Carl Jung is right and you are giving up your ‘O’ more than a few times, it’s time to not only wake up and smell the coffee but to do more and take control because all that pent up sexual frustration can be detrimental.
You can try some of these things to add that much needed spice and jazz up your sex life.
Foreplay can begin a lot early
Most of us are stuck with the idea that foreplay is just the cuddling and kissing that begins in the living room, gets intense in the bedroom and ends up in the act. Stop a moment and think about that pent up sexual energy you have; leave your energy, think about his. It’s said that men think of sex more than twice as often as women and you can very well bank on it. If you are planning for some good fun in the bedroom, tell him about it. You can choose any medium to let him know, be it while he is leaving the house, a call or an enticing text message. If you are planning something more than normal fun, convey it in a naughty way and include just some details. This will help build anticipation and if done the right way, can send his sex drive into crazy mode. A word of caution though – avoid it if he has an important presentation that day.
Surprise him
It doesn’t take a lot of time for a man’s sex drive to reach top gear. So something with an element of surprise is sure to get in revved up for some hot, passionate fun. For example, doing it in the shower is not a big deal nowadays; so, how can you jazz that up?
One way of getting him from ‘Oh!’ to ‘Ah!!!’ is surprising him in the shower. When he is least expecting it, slip into the bathroom, shedding all your clothes of course, and snap open the shower curtain. You don’t have to say anything; simply a wicked grin and you going down on him will get him talking in no time. Just don’t try to decode his gibberish.
Keep him high… on Testosterone that is
A recent survey showed that a woman with nothing except a towel is high on men’s ‘sexy’ ratings; obviously, a woman minus that towel as well will score full points. So, here is another way of building up his anticipation and, getting him home early.
While he or both of you are getting ready for work, don’t put on your clothes till the moment you leave the house. Parade through the house with that towel on (or not); right from getting him his coffee to fetching him breakfast. One side effect of this is that he might try to get you on the stairs or in the kitchen. Although that isn’t such a bad thing, avoid it and tell him that you are preparing for a nicer night. Better yet, you can get him to do the same.
If you have kids or other folks in your house, you can limit this act to the bedroom and it will still be effective.
Be fit, be confident, be voracious
Being fit should be first on your to-do list if you aim to jazz up your sex life. Note that being fit necessarily doesn’t mean that you have to fit into that size zero dress. On the contrary, not all men vie for a size zero woman; each one has his own different set of agenda. Being fit will not only boost your confidence in the bedroom but will also boost your libido giving you the ability to pull off some exceptional stuff while and also to achieve that ‘O’. Remember that page of ‘The Kama sutra’ that you wanted to try!
You will be surprised at your voraciousness when you are fit. What more? You will be surprised to know how surprised he was when you pulled off that stunt.
Remember one thing, jazzing up your sex life is not just your job, it should be a combined effort. These tips will just make you more attractive and increase your man’s longing for you. If you want a complete sex life makeover, talk to your man. Share your fantasies; convey to him in subtle tones what you desire but are too afraid to ask. Once you have an understanding, you can simply take it from there and enjoy the endless possibilities.
P.S. – As special prizes for special occasions, you both can throw in some ‘Afternoon Delights’ here and there.
